Why judgmental ruin not just others, but yourself too!
Whos wrong? and whos correct?. let’s settle this down for good! with self-reflection.
“Don’t take mirrors seriously, Your true reflection is in your heart.” -Unknown
Lately I’ve noticed that I have this pattern of judgement in my head and somehow it can be pretty bad, because it’s kind of judging people that I have in my life. I really don’t know how I can have this habit and keep doing it for months. This stuff really disturbs my mental health in some way because of the judging mentality that plays in the background. I cannot access the creative version of me to play along with judgement and imagination towards my progress and improvements. I used to have this mental circuit where I can play the dynamic connection between my thoughts and processes on a real time basis.
Now It decreases and all that pops up in my mind constantly about the observation towards people that I interact with. It’s very unhealthy in the way that influences my type of thinking throughout the day. Because I am aware that the amount of thoughts about innovation and ideas, especially how to solve problems in my life that I’ve been dealing with are becoming less dominant than it used to and what replaces this part of me is this sucky judgmental jerk. The first question that I want to ask is, is it useful to judge people in your life, especially the closest person that you care about ?
I think there are two expressions that can answer this question very clearly with both explanatory and implementations, first it’s about the way you think of how you want to influence others with your presence?(interactions) because the quality of interactions that you build with someone are the key component that navigate the livelihood of you! and that person! simultaneously. I do notice at some degree the magnitude of healthy behaviors in human interaction are determined by the function margin between the variable of behaviors that we receive and give relative to the state in time we experience the rally and valley of usefulness and vice versa.
For example, in my experience the intriguing state that excited me when I observed people is when they’ve experienced both decreasing and increasing quality in their behaviors to themselves and others. Somehow I can draw a line that tells me a lot of information about the quality of a person that has a trace and pattern. the most foundation that I can learn about a person in this expression is that the way they express their projection of self that can be validate in time to distinguish the likelihood of that to be happened to keep in mind the most important thing that people don’t give the credit they deserved is that overtimes they becoming less and less wrong to meet that projection meanwhile just keep going forward.
Now the second point is think with the same expression but change the phrase of “they” to I, Me, Myself. ; What excites me when I observe myself is when I’ve experienced both decreasing and increasing quality in my behaviors to myself and others. Somehow I can draw a line that tells me a lot of information about the quality of myself as a person that has a trace and pattern. the most foundation that I can learn in this expression is that the way I express my projection of self that can be validate in time to distinguish the likelihood of that to be happened to keep in mind that the most important thing that I don’t give the credit I deserved is that overtimes I becoming less and less wrong to meet that projection meanwhile I just have to keep going forward.
Even though the way I think about what forward means is not yet correct, it is worth it to just keep going. because eventually all those projections would probably be wrong and that’s the worst that could happen. but the best thing that would’ve happened in my life is what I would know after that storm; Is that what is the correct way among those errors(fails) to know the underlying reality which is the truth projection of myself that is separate from what people projected about me. To conclude this to all of us is “Even yourself can be wrong about you, of course others too. So why do you stop ? The only one thing that would prove yourself and others that they are wrong all this time is by keeping going forward.
